Clear your space. There are so many things those three little words can mean, and I could write for 31 days just on this one topic alone. (Maybe I will someday!)
But it’s a subject that’s close to my heart, and it’s so important to a high vibe life. You see, dear readers, I am a former messie. For many, many years I lived in a cluttered, often downright dirty home. I cringe now to look at photos of our family’s space during those years. I still don’t fully understand why it was so hard for me back then to keep a reasonably neat home, but I do know that the clutter and mess contributed to a downward spiral of self-loathing and inertia. I would look at the mess and feel so overwhelmed by it that I would do nothing. And of course my lack of motivation and positive action would make the mess worse. After a while, the chaos became almost invisible to me, and I would only really see it when people came over and I suddenly saw it through their eyes. All wrapped up in this was my deep-down belief that, even though I shared my home with a husband and several able-bodied children, it was my responsibility as the mom to keep the house clean. That’s not true of course, but I spent a solid 20 years feeling like a failure as a woman and a mother and never really asking for help.
When I think back on the heavy, dark, depressing energy of our home during those years compared with the lightness and happy effervescence of the energy in here today, I am amazed at how powerful and profound the effect of simply changing your surroundings can be. It’s truly life-changing.
You may be wondering which came first: did I work on my inner self first and then improve the house? Or did I work on the house first, and it helped me change myself? The answer is both. I worked on decluttering and developing better housekeeping habits, and at the same time I worked on spiritual and personal growth. Instead of being mired in a downward spiral, I was now delightfully caught up in an upward spiral. As I got happier and raised my vibration, it became much easier to let go of clutter and keep up with my new routines. Simple tasks that were honestly beyond me 10 years ago gradually became almost effortless. And my tolerance for mess and chaos was greatly reduced. My spirit craves order, simplicity and beauty now and I know I’ll never go back to the way things were.
This has been a very gradual change, so I’d like to emphasize that if you’re living in a mess, or you’re surrounded by lots of clutter, be loving and patient with yourself. It will take time to change, and that’s okay. What matters is changing the direction of your spiral.
Here are some resources that really helped me get my act together, and I think they’ll help you too:
Flylady–Oh, how I love this woman! I am grateful every day that I found Flylady. A former messie herself, Marla Cilley (aka Flylady) developed simple routines and habits to dig out of the chaos and generously shares them with the rest of us, through her website, email lists, and Facebook page. There is a ton of coaching and support in her community. I fell off the Flylady wagon many times over the years, but I always got back on and still follow some of her routines to this day.
Zen Habits–Leo Babauta is the blogger who first introduced me to simplicity and minimalism. His gentle and reassuring writing style drew me in, and his practical and wise advice for improving every area of life kept me coming back. His simple productivity system, Zen to Done, is pretty much perfection.
iHeartOrganizing–There are a ton of organizing blogs on the internet, but I’ll save you the trouble of sifting through them all. Jen’s is the best. She’s smart, funny, generous with her expertise, and her home is perfectly organized down to the tiniest detail. Okay, so I’m not there yet (and probably never will attain this level of organizational perfection) but her home is something we can all aspire to.
There’s a lot of information in those three sites to get you started, and as we progress through the month, I’ll touch on some further layers of space clearing, like the KonMarie method, feng shui and actually energetically clearing your space with sage, crystals and salt.
For now, just look around your home and notice where it needs some attention. If you don’t know where to start, begin where I always do: make your bed and wash the dishes. There! Doesn’t that feel better?
Come back tomorrow for Day 4!